If only Shana Fisher had said yes. This is the implication of countless headlines following Dimitrios Pagourtzis’ decision to slaughter her along with nine of her teachers and classmates.
According to a Facebook post by Fisher’s mother, Fisher “had four months of problems from this boy”: “he kept making advances on her and she repeatedly told him no. He continued to get more aggressive”. So a girl endures several months of harassment, until her harasser kills her. How are we supposed to see this?
The message, in case you’ve missed it, is that Fisher’s rejection – her “spurning” – of Pagourtzi is what caused his murderous rampage. (As a point of interest, try looking up all news articles with the word ‘spurned’ in the title. So many men driven to murder! Truly, spurning is the scourge of our times.)
There’s something truly depressing about finding the worldview of a killer reflected in the reporting of his crimes. Then again, belief that women and girls exist to tend to the sexual and emotional needs of men and boys is everywhere. It does not confine itself to those murky message boards where incels, MRAs, PUAs or whatever the latest misogyny hate tribe call themselves have decided to congregate.